I had the pleasure of attending the Dawn Chorus at the beginning of January as the Sydney Philharmonia Choirs performed on the steps of the Sydney Opera House to sing the city into 2020. When you are struggling with divorce or relationship breakup, singing is a pleasurable activity that enhances your well-being and brings you joy. Singing has many health benefits. These benefits are amplified when you sing in a group. Singing in a group gives you a sense of inclusion and a feeling of belonging. During and after a relationship breakup, sometimes our friendship groups aren’t the safe havens they once were. Singing in a group or choir gets you out and about and you have the opportunity to interact with and meet new people. Singing in a group gives structure to your life. When we go through a divorce or relationship breakup, we have to make many changes in our lives. Apart from the emotional impact, we may have to move house and learn to do many things on our own, that once we did as a couple. Having a place to go to and seeing familiar faces on a regular basis can offer much needed support and structure. Singing is a workout. Singing is an aerobic activity. When you sing your lungs take in a greater amount of oxygen and deeper breathing draws more oxygen into the blood and improves circulation. Singing lowers stress levels. Singing releases endorphins, the “feel-good” hormones, which are associated with stress reduction. When you are stressed your body releases cortisol. Too much cortisol can lead to high blood pressure. Singing, especially in a group, can reduce the level of cortisol in the body, relieve tension and help you to relax. Singing boosts the immune system. Singing can increase levels of cytokines, proteins of the immune system, which can enhance the body’s ability to fight illness. Singing boosts your confidence. When we experience a divorce or relationship breakup often our confidence and self-worth take a battering. Singing releases oxytocin, which enhances feelings of trust and bonding and combats feelings of anxiety, sadness and loneliness.
Singing is good for your body, mind and spirit. If you need an all-encompassing boost to your physical, emotional and mental health, I encourage you to go out and join a singing group or choir. It may be the beginning of an unexpected love affair!